What You Need To Know, and trust me you can’t go wrong with sensual pampering, like massages and spa-like baths. Lingerie is a timeless sexy gift. Use sensual treats like chocolate to spice things up. “Speaking of warming her up, your foreplay session could be preceded by a hot bath.”
Let’s fast-forward a few days: It’s Monday morning, you’re standing by the water cooler casually exchanging stories about the night before — Valentine’s Day — with the guys. What kind of guy do you want to be? The conservative, who “surprised” his girlfriend with a box of chocolates and a fancy dinner? Boring. Even the boss’ morning meeting stories are more interesting than that. The ol’ married guy, whose sex life depends on that very day? Please.
This Valentine’s Day, you can be the guy who stepped outside of his chocolate box, who dared to do something a bit more kinky, and who can stand by that water cooler with a smirk on his face that doesn’t require any explanation.
Where to start? If you want to impress her, start by pleasing her with these 11 sensual Valentine’s Day ideas.
1- Prolonged foreplay
Let’s jump right into it (no puns intended): When was the last time you engaged in prolonged foreplay that did not culminate with penetration? Exactly. We underestimate how important it is to warm her up, make her feel special and, ultimately, have her so turned on that she’s begging for it.
We know what you’re thinking: “Seriously?” And, “Am I capable?” Yes and yes. Sometimes the anticipation is hotter than the climax. So, we recommend relishing that moment of anticipation because, hey, you’ll enjoy it too. Kiss, touch, lick, tease, bite — you choose the verb — all night long.
Finally, if the idea of prolonged foreplay without it leading to penetration is painful, think of it this way: There’s no better time than Valentine’s Day to make the sacrifice — and she’ll remember it for the rest of the year. Win-win.
2- Warm bath
Speaking of warming her up, your foreplay session could be preceded by a hot bath. This sensual Valentine’s Day idea involves filling the bathtub with rose petals and scented oils, which will definitely help her relax and prep her body for what’s about to come.
Here’s the thing. Obviously you’re running a hot bath for her; she knows this and so do you. If you’re already making the effort, why not commit to it and go all out?
Here are some tips on how to set the mood. Play some sensual grown folks’ music (Sade is foolproof — and it’s pronounced “Sha-day”), dim the lights and light the candles and make sure that you are clean (i.e. shower) before stepping in to the tub. There’s nothing that kills the romance like knowing you’re bathing in your own filth.
3- Massage oils
Shop around for some massage oils that come packed with flavor. Whether you like banana, almond or chocolate, now you can rub her body down and lick off the remains.
4- New location
Sex on Valentine’s Day? Wow, how original. The solution doesn’t involve modifying the act; it involves modifying the location. If you’re a play-it-safe kind of guy, then throwing her over the dinner table in a moment of passion will read out of character and will likely turn her on. Or try something a bit unexpected like the stairs.
For a real rush, consider public sex. The fact that it’s taboo and the fear of getting caught provides an ideal outlet to release your inner kink. It’s Sunday night. An evening walk in the woods sounds good. Maybe it’s time to take out the trash — you know, in that alley. Take your sex life to new heights on Valentine’s Day, and she’ll walk into the office Monday morning with a smirk of her own.
Feed her, blindfold her and tie her up. That’s next……Try using body paint and playing games in which she has to guess what you’re writing on her body.”
5- Feed her
Maslow wasn’t kidding when he said our physiological needs need to be satisfied first. So why not combine two of them for maximum pleasure? Our next sensual Valentine’s Day idea involves increasing your libido with food. Cutting up fruit like strawberries, melon, apples, and chocolate can only serve to make the sexual fun even more, well, fun.
6- Blindfold her
The cliche would have you blindfold and feed her. This time, however, we recommend you blindfold her and present her with different scents, making her guess what each one is. Make one of them an actual perfume gift.
Along with the perfume, make her smell things like incense, flowers, oils, etc.
7- Tie her up
“Choke me, spank me, pull my hair.” No, that’s not where we’re going with this entry (but if that’s your thing, man, then happy Valentine’s Day). Women cited domination (you dominating her) as one of their top 10 female sex fantasies.
There’s nothing quite like having a woman submit to you completely. She wants you to own your raging hormones, she wants you to savagely run your fingers through her hair and to feel the weight of your body. Begin by tying her hands to the bedpost with a scarf (a scarf she will later receive as a gift) and then have your way with her.
8- Use a feather
Going down on her is one thing; using a feather to drive her crazy and make her beg to give it a little lick is another. Use a strong feather — or any other touch-based sex toy — to tickle her entire body, ending at her vagina.
9- Buy her lingerie
Most men find it difficult to buy their girlfriend lingerie, so they don’t. Here’s how to buy her lingerie. Now that you know how, get her a sexy, lacy satin getup, and once she puts it on for you, tear it off and do your thing. Wasn’t that easy?
10- Sexy games
No, we’re not talking about naked Twister. Try using body paint and playing games in which she has to guess what you’re writing on her body. A wrong answer gets you five minutes of oral sex; a right answer gets her five minutes of tongue action.
What would this special day be without chocolate — and the 101 ways that you can play with it? Try melting chocolate on each other, and pace yourself as you devour every inch of her body. If you feel like this Valentine’s Day idea isn’t substantial enough, combine it with another idea, like prolonged foreplay (No. 1 ).
we dare you
This Valentine’s Day, we dare you to channel your inner master provocateur, to get creative and, if nothing else, get kinky. We dare you to make her day so memorable that it will make her girlfriends’ boyfriends look like amateurs. Can you handle it?